|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: |
Jun 18, 2009 - 2:58 PM
|
|
|
By: |
mastadge
(Member)
|
My current job has me working with two women. Today at lunch we were discussing movies. A particular series of films in which I've no interest came up, and very quickly my coworkers got to discussing the two male leads in the films. The conversation was proceeding like this: "That guy in the first movie was so cute. Why couldn't they have brought him back in the second?" "Really? I think the guy in the second was totally hotter." "I guess, but he seems so arrogant, and I can't stand arrogant guys." "Really? I love guys like that. Arrogant guys are really hot." "Ugh, no. That's not hot at all. The guy in the first movie was way hotter." And so forth. A minute later my opinion was solicited -- about the movies, not the guys. There is an actress I like in this series, and I made the comment that "I'll see almost anything she's in, but I just have no interest in those movies." Immediately the tone went slightly hostile and accusatory: "Now you're just being a dude." Can someone enlighten me as to what was so dudelike about my comment? And about how my comment, which did not objectify or trivialize the actress in question in any way, was somehow objectionable when their discussing the merits of the actors and male characters was not? Is it simply a double standard issue here, or is something going on that I'm missing?
|
|
|
|
|
|
Boy, you don't know much about women, do you? They're great about asking for opinions and then ignoring them or saying something like they said to you.
|
|
|
|
|
Breaking news... You were having a conversation with a pair of dimwits.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
I always find it funny that women complain about men always being obsessed with sex, yet the covers for every woman's magazine always contains the words "sex" and "orgasm". I once knew a very charming girl who had a large painting of a not so cryptic open flower on her wall. She was a psychotherapist and apparently it had been painted by someone from a women's group. I remember commenting something about what Dali would do with that painting, and I found myself thinking how a 'women's group' would respond to a large painting of a Saturn V, or lots of spears and swords on a male person's wall. You have to admit, there'd be howls and winks.
|
|
|
|
|
She probably couldn't afford to have on her wall a painting by Georgia O'Keefe.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Well done dogplant, but I'm worried about the source of those exhaust fumes.
|
|
|
|
|
Well done dogplant, but I'm worried about the source of those exhaust fumes. BWAH HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!
|
|
|
|
|
I stick with dating dudes, so I don't have that problem, the Lord blessed me in that way!! Thanks JC!!
|
|
|
|
|
Breaking news... You were having a conversation with a pair of dimwits. Judging someone's entire life experience and intelligence on one comment is pretty shallow isn't it?
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Immediately the tone went slightly hostile and accusatory: "Now you're just being a dude." Can someone enlighten me as to what was so dudelike about my comment? Well, after almost 11 years, none of the Men-Who-Date-Women seems to have an answer for you, so I'll give it a spin... I'm thinking they were simply annoyed NOT at your comment about the actress, but about the movies. Maybe they thought you were dissing female-oriented movies. Put another way, they might have said, "Well, only a dude would dismiss movies that women like. That's what all dudes do, and so you must be like all dudes."
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|