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Jan 14, 2022 - 9:24 AM
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edwzoomom
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This morning. I was viewing the obituary of an acquaintance who passed away recently. While looking for the specific listing, I noticed an obituary with the photo of a sweet looking dog. I immediately thought of how much the decedent must have loved their pet to have wanted to use a photo for their obituary. As I read further, I noticed the obituary was for the dog itself. According to the listing, the dog was a much loved "emotional support" dog (not a police or military canine) that had served a member of the family. The listing was very long with details such as birth date, date of death, history, likes/dislikes, survivors(cousins, siblings), those who pre-deceased - the obituary was 10 paragraphs long and ended with a quote from an Elton John song, expressions of thanks to several doctors and a notice that a celebration would be held in the Spring due to Covid. A link was included for online condolences. The listing was right in the middle of and among the obituaries of several individuals who recently passed (including my acquaintance).
I was kind of at a loss as what to think. I have never seen this before and am not sure how I feel about it. I love dogs and have had several over the years. When they passed, I mourned deeply and still miss one deeply. Hmmm.
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Hey edw,
The other day i wanted to change my mortgage company, so i asked my dog. But he just barked.
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I'm very fond of Banjo but wouldn't do an obit'. Others wouldn't feel the same, fair enough.
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EDW - I don't know 99% of the names that are listed here in the non-music section (the obits section), that are said to have died. I wouldn't mind in the least if you incorporated your dear friends name and life-story here for us to read. If you cannot transpose the article, please list his/her name and what this person meant to you (and others). I know I'd look forward to 'knowing' about your friend.
Regarding the dog, well, you know how badly I felt after my dog JJ died a few years ago. I remember speaking to you privately about him. But I would have never wanted his death to appear as the dog in questions owner did, in the papers, as though he were Tricki-Woo. Even Tricki-Woo probably wouldn't have wanted the publicity. Probably.
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From your summary, I am guessing that this service dog accompanied the owner to work and was quite popular with the owner's co-workers. I can see the obituary as a way to let people who may have known the dog but lost touch with the owner to be aware of the dog's passing and join in on the celebration of the dog's life. A bit over the top, but, hey, why not? I can think of some dogs that I like more than most people.  Your post reminded me of the feel good stories you see every once in a while where a kid is accompanied by a service animal to school and both the kid and the animal get pictures in the yearbook.
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Jan 14, 2022 - 11:12 AM
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edwzoomom
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EDW - I don't know 99% of the names that are listed here in the non-music section (the obits section), that are said to have died. I wouldn't mind in the least if you incorporated your dear friends name and life-story here for us to read. If you cannot transpose the article, please list his/her name and what this person meant to you (and others). I know I'd look forward to 'knowing' about your friend.
Regarding the dog, well, you know how badly I felt after my dog JJ died a few years ago. I remember speaking to you privately about him. But I would have never wanted his death to appear as the dog in questions owner did, in the papers, as though he were Tricki-Woo. Even Tricki-Woo probably wouldn't have wanted the publicity. Probably.
MD, I do recall the conversations we had when you lost your beloved pup. I actually thought of you first when I read that obituary and wrote my post here. I wondered what you would think. I know it was gut-wrenching and heartbreaking to lose your pup and I'm sure the owners of the dog that passed were hurting deeply as well.
As far as my acquaintance, I was not an immediate friend of the individual but we had met many years ago and this person has always had a wonderful reputation locally. I appreciate your request but will keep the name private.
However, I will share that this past Wed., January 12th was my niece Judi's birthday. She would have been 59 years old. I spoke of her here back in 2017 when she passed away from breast cancer at the age of 54. I miss her every day. our whole family misses her every day. I delivered one of the eulogies at her memorial service and opened with this quote.
Khalil Gibran wrote “When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart and you shall see, that in truth, you are weeping for that which has been your delight.”
She was pure delight.
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Hello EDW. I understand the desire for privacy of your friend, and I respect that. I also wish to extend sympathies for your niece, Judi-Lynn. She sounded like a remarkable woman. I appreciate your opening up and speaking of these two women who were lucky enough to have had such warm and loving friends and family surrounding them.
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Jan 15, 2022 - 6:49 AM
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Ron Pulliam
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This morning. I was viewing the obituary of an acquaintance who passed away recently. While looking for the specific listing, I noticed an obituary with the photo of a sweet looking dog. I immediately thought of how much the decedent must have loved their pet to have wanted to use a photo for their obituary. As I read further, I noticed the obituary was for the dog itself. According to the listing, the dog was a much loved "emotional support" dog (not a police or military canine) that had served a member of the family. The listing was very long with details such as birth date, date of death, history, likes/dislikes, survivors(cousins, siblings), those who pre-deceased - the obituary was 10 paragraphs long and ended with a quote from an Elton John song, expressions of thanks to several doctors and a notice that a celebration would be held in the Spring due to Covid. A link was included for online condolences. The listing was right in the middle of and among the obituaries of several individuals who recently passed (including my acquaintance).
I was kind of at a loss as what to think. I have never seen this before and am not sure how I feel about it. I love dogs and have had several over the years. When they passed, I mourned deeply and still miss one deeply. Hmmm.
For some, their dogs or other pets are their children. The obituary you described must have been quite expensive. I imagine that the person who wrote it and paid for it was very emotionally attached to his, or her, dog and wanted everyone of his acquaintances to recognize the loss and the depth of that loss.
What I would say is "live...and learn" and enjoy the fact that you actually read it in your lifetime.
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Jan 15, 2022 - 8:35 AM
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edwzoomom
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This morning. I was viewing the obituary of an acquaintance who passed away recently. While looking for the specific listing, I noticed an obituary with the photo of a sweet looking dog. I immediately thought of how much the decedent must have loved their pet to have wanted to use a photo for their obituary. As I read further, I noticed the obituary was for the dog itself. According to the listing, the dog was a much loved "emotional support" dog (not a police or military canine) that had served a member of the family. The listing was very long with details such as birth date, date of death, history, likes/dislikes, survivors(cousins, siblings), those who pre-deceased - the obituary was 10 paragraphs long and ended with a quote from an Elton John song, expressions of thanks to several doctors and a notice that a celebration would be held in the Spring due to Covid. A link was included for online condolences. The listing was right in the middle of and among the obituaries of several individuals who recently passed (including my acquaintance).
I was kind of at a loss as what to think. I have never seen this before and am not sure how I feel about it. I love dogs and have had several over the years. When they passed, I mourned deeply and still miss one deeply. Hmmm.
For some, their dogs or other pets are their children. The obituary you described must have been quite expensive. I imagine that the person who wrote it and paid for it was very emotionally attached to his, or her, dog and wanted everyone of his acquaintances to recognize the loss and the depth of that loss.
What I would say is "live...and learn" and enjoy the fact that you actually read it in your lifetime.
I certainly understand the role our pets play in our lives. I cannot imagine our lives without our two kitties that we have right now. A cat named Lily was my sister's savior when my niece passed away and is still by her side. I am surely not against the lovely notice about the service dog and the emotional loss it conveyed. That wasn't what I was ambivalent about at all. My dilemma was it's presence on the page of a local funeral home. I'm still not sure how I feel about that.
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Jan 15, 2022 - 10:17 AM
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Tall Guy
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I balled my eyes out when my gerbil past away.
Wow, I hope you mean “bawled”... in the UK the meanings are quite different.
Something I’ve come to realise over many years is that you can’t judge the few by the actions of the many. In other words, generalising completely fails when you try to apply it to the individual. While mourning a pet (and I’ve done it, believe me, I would have broken down when our last cat was put to sleep on my lap except that the vet was young and pretty) can be seen as trivial in comparison to mourning a human, such an attitude doesn’t take the feelings of that individual into account. It may be, for instance, that they have never lost a friend or relative yet.
Similarly, you shouldn’t judge someone who appears to show a less-than-decent amount of grief when they do lose a friend or relative. Perhaps they show grief in a different way, perhaps they deserve their deepest feelings for when they’re alone. The point is we’re all different and should never be judged against the median reaction.
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