Be careful with what you say and do around anyone who comes across as happy, cheerful, and nice every waking second, because they're superficial and utterly phony and will betray you in a heartbeat.
Don't waste energy worrying over things over which you have no active control. Save your energies for things over which you can make an actual, practical difference.
Always confront angry ppl in a calm manner. Either their naturally hot heads (Their bark is worse than their bite) or they are trying to intimidate you. (Bullies) If you act calm and show no fear it usually defuses any situation.
Don't waste energy worrying over things over which you have no active control. Save your energies for things over which you can make an actual, practical difference.
I told my kid a version of this the other day, pretty much modern life is full of things that really do not matter, just focus on what really does. I was delighted that her response was something like 'that sounds like a pretty smart idea'.
One way to 'take a vacation' is to turn off the news for awhile. When I walk out the front door and look around me, there is basically no evidence of all the drama we are inundated with. I don't think that total ignorance is bliss, but the 24 hour news cycle has kinda gotten the better of us at times.
A famous statement that I love, don't put off for tomorrow what you can do today.
i did this once. Was gona get petrol next day and make do that day, but i thought of that phrase and turned left towards the supermarket to fill up. On the way in, my car got hit by escaping ram-raiders in a speeding getaway vehicle who wrote off my car!!
A famous statement that I love, don't put off for tomorrow what you can do today.
i did this once. Was gona get petrol next day and make do that day, but i thought of that phrase and turned left towards the supermarket to fill up. On the way in, my car got hit by escaping ram-raiders in a speeding getaway vehicle who wrote off my car!!
I've spent my whole life putting stuff off for tomorrow what I could do today, & it seems to have worked. I have broken my rule here, I should have put this post off 'till tomorrow.
If you have a parent or other relative who insists on sending you money every year for your birthday/Christmas even after you have repeatedly asked them not to, there is a sure-fire way to get them to stop (I've really done this).
As painful as it may be, take scissors and cut up the bill(s) or check and take a close-up photograph of the shredded paper. Attach the photo to an email and send it to the gifter along with the following explanation...
"Dear Mom/Dad/what-have-you,
"Thank you for your gift although I must respectfully decline it. I am a well employed adult and have no need for money gifts. On numerous occasions I have asked you to stop sending me money as it makes me feel uncomfortable because I know you are on a fixed income. Since you refuse to comply with my wishes any money gift you send me from this day forward will be destroyed. I have attached a photograph to this email of the destroyed cash. Any money you send me in the future will meet a similar fate and I will send you photographic evidence of the shredded cash/check. I don't mean to seem ungrateful but this has to stop now."
Of course, you can always mail the money back to your gifter or donate it to a charity but destroying the money has a certain shock value they won't forget. It works like a charm.
(I'm not sure if it's illegal to destroy American currency. Check with local law enforcement before proceeding. )
Here's an oldie but a goodie that's not funny in the slightest, but it seems to have a grain of truth to it (and forgive me if it's already been said)...
When a man and a woman love each other, he becomes her strength while she becomes his weakness.
(Feel free to poke holes in it all you want--its validity probably depends greatly on what kind of loves songs one listens to. And endow it with any gender-neutrality you wish.)
If you have a parent or other relative who insists on sending you money every year for your birthday/Christmas even after you have repeatedly asked them not to, there is a sure-fire way to get them to stop (I've really done this).
As painful as it may be, take scissors and cut up the bill(s) or check and take a close-up photograph of the shredded paper. Attach the photo to an email and send it to the gifter along with the following explanation...
"Dear Mom/Dad/what-have-you,
"Thank you for your gift although I must respectfully decline it. I am a well employed adult and have no need for money gifts. On numerous occasions I have asked you to stop sending me money as it makes me feel uncomfortable because I know you are on a fixed income. Since you refuse to comply with my wishes any money gift you send me from this day forward will be destroyed. I have attached a photograph to this email of the destroyed cash. Any money you send me in the future will meet a similar fate and I will send you photographic evidence of the shredded cash/check. I don't mean to seem ungrateful but this has to stop now."
Of course, you can always mail the money back to your gifter or donate it to a charity but destroying the money has a certain shock value they won't forget. It works like a charm.
(I'm not sure if it's illegal to destroy American currency. Check with local law enforcement before proceeding. )
I'll remember this if there's a particular relative I wish to alienate and offend.
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